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Originally written by Full Frontal Nudity Custer:

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I like tall men, as I'm tall myself. I like average to big guys, though I rarely end up with them. Well-groomed appearance is always a plus, but a little bit of scruffiness isn't bad. He definitely should not be obsessed with his own looks. I prefer dark-haired men. I like intelligent men with decent senses of humor. A guy who is good at something and likes to teach other people about it definitely can be attractive. He should be fairly serious, but willing to cut loose and be silly every now and then.

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Originally written by You know who this is:

Stop talking about sex before marriage though. It's a completely different subject. We were talking about what sort of girls people like.

Some members stated that they would be most interested in girls that were willing to abstain from sex until marriage. From this, a bit of a debate ensued. It's not all that off-topic, though, so there's no need to blow the whistle.

EDIT: Oh yeah, I remember what I was going to say. The reason that there are all these people not in relationships is because most of the girls think they're too good for everyone else and most of the blokes (myself included) are UGLY! UGLY! I bet I've offended everyone now, but that's what I wanted to say. I think. I'll shut up now.

Perhaps some of the girls here are snooty, and some of the guys are physically unattractive. But one's degree of effectiveness in attracting members of the opposite (or same) sex, as well as maintaining these relationships after they have been formed, is not merely dependent on such considerations. Other factors, such as charm, attitude, personal carriage, and intelligence, seem, for many girls, to be at least as important, cumulatively, as physical beauty in terms of what they look for in a man. In terms of what the majority of men look for in a woman, physical beauty is almost certainly at the top of the list. The other factors, however, are still of undeniable importance. In terms of maintaining an existing relationship, compatibility and flexibility are the most important attributes.

From my own experience, my lack of success at attracting girls has very little to do with my degree of physical attractiveness, and everything to do with certain traits of mine. Although I'm not conventionally handsome, don't shave nearly as often as I should, and am rather scrawny, most people I know find me to be rather good looking. Unfortunately, I lack the ambition and determination needed to break through my natural shyness around attractive women, and hold any more than a standard conversation with one. My inability to flirt, or to make the first move in asking a girl out, often seems to prevent me from making conquests one would think would be within my power to make. So, as you can see, you've hardly given the complicated nature of an all-too common situation the justice it deserves.

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If someone is shy, which is my problem, it's very difficult to acquire a significant other.

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