Seperated from a loved one.

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Electric Sheep One
Member # 3431
Profile #25
The devotion to keeping the relationship may not be the entirety of love, but I wouldn't say it's not love. I'd say that it's a big part of what love is.

My wife and I started dating about three months before moving to cities on separate continents, eight time zones apart. We lived apart for nearly six years, including the first four years of our marriage. With longish vacations, and strong geographical bias in choice of which conferences to attend, we actually spent something like 1/4 of that time together, usually a few weeks at a stretch. Still, we were mostly married but living apart for those years. I used to say we were living in sin.

Our story is the worst I know, but it's by no means astonishing in academic life. Academics have spent long years preparing for jobs that are fantastic to have, but are thinly scattered over the globe; they make these kinds of sacrifices. We are much more aware now than we were then, that those four years of our youth will never come back to us. But a generation or two ago, millions of couples were separated for years by war. My wife didn't have to worry about getting a telegram saying I'd been killed when my integral blew up.

We have now been living together full time for nearly eight years. Together is much better, but a long-distance relationship is indeed viable if both parties really want it to be.

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Off With Their Heads
Member # 4045
Profile Homepage #26
quote:
Originally written by Student of Trinity:

My wife didn't have to worry about getting a telegram saying I'd been killed when my integral blew up.
I lost some of my best friends that way... :(

There are two kinds of long-distance relationships: the in-person relationship that has to endure distance for some amount of time, and the relationship that began and continues to be long-distance. SoT's story is in the former category. Meeting someone far away over the Internet is in the latter category. I've sworn off the latter forever, but I'm currently going through the former (will see her again this weekend!).

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Arancaytar: Every time you ask people to compare TM and Kel, you endanger the poor, fluffy kittens.
Smoo: Get ready to face the walls!
Ephesos: In conclusion, yarr.

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Raven v. Writing Desk
Member # 261
Profile Homepage #27
quote:
Originally written by Alorael:

I do several people who had "just friends" talks, though. Lo and behold, they're still "just" very good friends...
Did no one else notice this horrible entendre?

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Posts: 3560 | Registered: Wednesday, November 7 2001 08:00
Law Bringer
Member # 2984
Profile Homepage #28
quote:
Originally written by Kelandon:

quote:
Originally written by Student of Trinity:

My wife didn't have to worry about getting a telegram saying I'd been killed when my integral blew up.
I lost some of my best friends that way... :(

Indeed. Integration by Parts should be placed on the list of condemned weapons by the UN. :(

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Posts: 8752 | Registered: Wednesday, May 14 2003 07:00
Off With Their Heads
Member # 4045
Profile Homepage #29
quote:
Originally written by jg.faust:

Indeed. Integration by Parts should be placed on the list of condemned weapons by the UN. :(
Bah, integration by parts. That's not dangerous if you know what you're doing. Integrals that reduce to gamma functions, though....

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Arancaytar: Every time you ask people to compare TM and Kel, you endanger the poor, fluffy kittens.
Smoo: Get ready to face the walls!
Ephesos: In conclusion, yarr.

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Posts: 7968 | Registered: Saturday, February 28 2004 08:00
Law Bringer
Member # 335
Profile Homepage #30
quote:
Originally written by Yama:

quote:
Originally written by Alorael:

I do several people who had "just friends" talks, though. Lo and behold, they're still "just" very good friends...
Did no one else notice this horrible entendre?

Not what I meant to type!

—Alorael, who can't see a double entendre, horrible or otherwise. He can only see the blatant and entirely unveiled statement.
Posts: 14579 | Registered: Saturday, December 1 2001 08:00
Law Bringer
Member # 2984
Profile Homepage #31
quote:
Originally written by Zebranky:

quote:
Originally written by Yama:

quote:
Originally written by Alorael:

I do several people who had "just friends" talks, though. Lo and behold, they're still "just" very good friends...
Did no one else notice this horrible entendre?

Not what I meant to type!

—Alorael, who can't see a double entendre, horrible or otherwise. He can only see the blatant and entirely unveiled statement.

I had to read this quote three times to figure out what was wrong with it, and that was after your post.

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Look on my works, ye mighty, and despair. | I have a love of woodwind instruments.
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Skip to My Lou
Member # 40
Profile Homepage #32
I did notice, but it conjured images I'm not entirely sure I want to contemplate, let alone discuss. Especially since I sometimes tend to picture Alorael as a zebra, a sword, or a Korean businessman.

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Posts: 1629 | Registered: Wednesday, October 3 2001 07:00
Shaper
Member # 73
Profile #33
A large, sweaty Korean businessman, at that.

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Posts: 2957 | Registered: Thursday, October 4 2001 07:00
Law Bringer
Member # 335
Profile Homepage #34
What I may or may not have done with cow products is not a suitable topic for Spiderweb discussion, thank you very much.

—Alorael, who almost started this signature with "/\lorae|" for old times' sake.
Posts: 14579 | Registered: Saturday, December 1 2001 08:00
Skip to My Lou
Member # 40
Profile Homepage #35
My apologies for bringing it up. Have a woefully belated birthday present.

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Posts: 1629 | Registered: Wednesday, October 3 2001 07:00
Law Bringer
Member # 2984
Profile Homepage #36
quote:
Originally written by Zebranky:

—Alorael, who almost started this signature with "/\lorae|" for old times' sake.
There are few things left these days that remind me that I am still a newbie. This is one of them though... did you really spell your name like that once?

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Look on my works, ye mighty, and despair. | I have a love of woodwind instruments.
"That damn meddling eskimo." --WKS about Alorael
Posts: 8752 | Registered: Wednesday, May 14 2003 07:00
Law Bringer
Member # 335
Profile Homepage #37
Djur set a filter on Desperance to change "Alorael" to a much longer string about a Korean businessman. He made the filter very inclusive, so I had to be very creative with my name and never use the same characters twice.

—Alorael, who remembers those days. Oh, the wonderful feeling of being a renegade who posted on both Desperance and Polaris! Oh, the pride of enduring such scorn! And it made for some great stories.
Posts: 14579 | Registered: Saturday, December 1 2001 08:00

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