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A Mad Minstrel Apprentice Member # 5553	written Tuesday, April 18 2006 11:54 Profile #2 Yes, I experienced something similar a few years ago. It didn't really work out (and if you know who I am, shut the hell up. Seriously. ;) ). The internet, especially when limited to text communication, is tricky. This works both ways - in conflicts that escalate through misunderstandings, and in relations that can be misinterpreted. When there is insufficient input, the imagination draws up a more complete picture. It is only a very spurious and unlikely speculation, but be sure to consider that you might be reading more into your communication than the one you are communicating with. If that is the case, you are in for a nasty surprise, both disappointing and possibly embarassing, when it turns out that someone you thought had deeper feelings for you is actually still considering you a casual acquaintance. In that case, even the casual friendship can be ruined - just like it is outside the internet. Therefore, I would suggest a gradual widening of communication channels. That way, if it ever turns out you absolutely wouldn't fit together, it will leave both of you enough room to gracefully backpedal without breaking contact entirely. If you are already talking on Instant Messenger, consider writing emails as well (you would think emails are "more distant" than IM, but actually it is an essential medium, similar to writing letters). Next, see if you can get Skype or Google Talk or some other means of voice communication. You wouldn't believe what difference that makes. The thought of actually talking can make many queasy after being used to written text, but just remember that if you ever actually live together, you will talk every day. :P If that works out, exchanging snail mail addresses might be a good idea. Or schedule some meeting during the next holidays. The point is that, as always, a real relationship takes some time to build. When using a medium as limited as the internet, this is even more true. Posts: 1 \| Registered: Sunday, February 27 2005 08:00

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A Mad Minstrel

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written Tuesday, April 18 2006 11:54 Profile #2

Yes, I experienced something similar a few years ago. It didn't really work out (and if you know who I am, shut the hell up. Seriously. ;) ).

The internet, especially when limited to text communication, is tricky. This works both ways - in conflicts that escalate through misunderstandings, and in relations that can be misinterpreted. When there is insufficient input, the imagination draws up a more complete picture. It is only a very spurious and unlikely speculation, but be sure to consider that you might be reading more into your communication than the one you are communicating with. If that is the case, you are in for a nasty surprise, both disappointing and possibly embarassing, when it turns out that someone you thought had deeper feelings for you is actually still considering you a casual acquaintance. In that case, even the casual friendship can be ruined - just like it is outside the internet.

Therefore, I would suggest a gradual widening of communication channels. That way, if it ever turns out you absolutely wouldn't fit together, it will leave both of you enough room to gracefully backpedal without breaking contact entirely. If you are already talking on Instant Messenger, consider writing emails as well (you would think emails are "more distant" than IM, but actually it is an essential medium, similar to writing letters). Next, see if you can get Skype or Google Talk or some other means of voice communication. You wouldn't believe what difference that makes. The thought of actually talking can make many queasy after being used to written text, but just remember that if you ever actually live together, you will talk every day. :P

If that works out, exchanging snail mail addresses might be a good idea. Or schedule some meeting during the next holidays. The point is that, as always, a real relationship takes some time to build. When using a medium as limited as the internet, this is even more true.

Posts: 1 | Registered: Sunday, February 27 2005 08:00